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If it can make an extreme introvert like myself excited to meet strangers, these courses work!
我报名参加了课程因为SocialSelf website was correct in explaining how…
Read moreAlice Chang
Mental Health Professional
New Jersey, USA
I felt like there was no hope for me, but it’s amazing to see the progress I’ve made.
I’ve been quiet for as long as I can remember. Not until middle school did I start…
Read moreJerry Finn, 28
Web Developer
Arkansas, USA
One of the most valuable investments you can make in yourself
我觉得这门课提供了一些trut接地hs that I had been blind to before. Anxiety has a way of…
Read moreBridget Viernes, 31
Teacher
USA
我报名参加了课程因为SocialSelf website was correct in explaining how going on expensive trips and other material things do not make you interesting, but how you engage with the other person does. It was backed with a generous 60-day money-back guarantee, so I felt comfortable purchasing all the classes.
Being extremely introverted, I assumed that others were comfortable socializing, not realizing that they may also struggle with talking to strangers, and find initiating conversations awkward, especially since I always see everyone grouped together in conversation. This made me much more comfortable with putting myself out there in marketing and networking, and I love the advice to be the one who’s extroverted! Great example of faking it until making it!
David normalized how I was feeling and very kind in empathizing with my situation, and gave great advice. The videos are of superb quality, concise and clear – there’s no fluff or time wasting, David gets straight to the point, explains very clearly each topic, and gives multiple examples to back up his statements.
One example is explaining why small talk is not “useless” as I always dread small talk, but rather a quick signal to let others know that you’re friendly and open, which makes you much more interesting and approachable. And understanding that still might make you uncomfortable, especially in a large crowd of strangers, just smiling helps when people pass by, and you might actually strike up a conversation when someone approaches you, and introduces themselves to you. Each video lasts around 5 mins, but packed with a lot of information and actionable steps that you can use right away.
To make sure that we’ve understood the ideas in videos, we engage in written exercises, commenting below to other subscribers. One such exercise is to share something about yourself that is personal but non-threatening, one example is talking about a movie you watched, which is a good icebreaker.
David discusses multiple techniques on how to be engaging, and I got excited about practicing these strategies, that for the first time in my life, I was excited to attend a social event!
Five stars at least – if it can make an extreme introvert like myself WILLING and excited to go out and meet strangers, these courses work!
Alice Chang
Mental Health Professional
New Jersey, USA
I’ve been quiet for as long as I can remember. Not until middle school did I start really having issues with forming connections and growing socially. In highschool over ten years ago, my social anxiety was so bad to the point that I didn’t even speak. A lot of people didn’t even know what my voice sounded like.
For years I felt like I was trapped in my own head unable to externalize anything that I was thinking to the point that I didn’t speak unless forced in high school. I felt doomed to this life, and after years of therapy, I still felt misunderstood and lost.
I don’t remember how I came across David’s program, but when I started reading about it, I saw that he seemed to have experienced a lot of the same struggles as I had and was able to put feelings into words that I was never able to. He also said he was able to overcome it and offered a program filled with tools that helped him, so I hoped that if someone who actually could finally relate to my experience had the answer for them, maybe it could at least help me in a small way.
I typically have a hard time staying motivated with things so I was worried that I may not keep up with the program but luckily for me it didn’t feel like a chore and it was actually touching on things that I had always wanted to know, such as what I could actually do to help myself not only get through these tough social situations, but to feel confident in doing so and also to not worry about any future interactions.
I got a lot from the overall tips and tools in David’s program, but what I think was so smart and immensely helpful was that he allows others taking the program to talk about their experience with that specific part of the program that you had just taken and to share struggles and overall thoughts and experiences.
Reading others testimonies and sharing my own in this format was probably my favorite thing, which made this more than just a program but an actual interactive experience that you are taking part in with all these other people around the world who know what it’s like to deal with these things that not a lot of people can relate to. It was very a refreshing and important part of this journey.
I’m still not perfect in social situations, but I’ve learned that it’s okay to not always say the “perfect” thing and that you can be more comfortable and relatable to people by using what you’ve learned from this program.
After taking the course I feel less afraid to be myself and to put myself out there in social situations. I’ve made friends and lowered my overall anxiety through tips and tricks I learned as well.
So when it felt like no one knew how to help me with this, it was a huge blessing to find David and his program, and luckily others have been able to as well. Thank you!
Jerry Finn, 28
Web Developer
Arkansas, USA
我觉得这门课提供了一些trut接地hs that I had been blind to before. Anxiety has a way of blocking the truth. And the course really opened up my mind to the ways I had been self-sabotaging and provided actionable steps to improve socially. When implementing these steps into my mindset, they eventually become habits, and now I feel more of a sense of ease with socializing (of course, I could still improve in some ways but have made HUGE progress).
I love the grounded perspectives this course offered. Advice is given in a practical and caring way that feels approachable for the learner. I reflect on ideas learned in this course often, and I’ve noticed I am making them into habits. I do feel more confident now than I used to. I feel that I have tools I can use to improve my overall quality of life.
Really this is one of the most valuable investments you can make in yourself. I highly recommend this course.
Bridget Viernes, 31
Teacher
USA